There are numerous ways to connect with our ancestors. The most basic, and effective, is simply talking with them. Open yourself to conversation with those who have already passed, whether you knew them or not. Opening a dialogue with our ancestors shows we are receptive to their wisdom and are willing to offer healing backwards to them. Once that space is opened, they will often speak in dreams, insights, and in the quiet reflections that feel deep as your bones.
Opening a space for the Ancestors
Choose a night that feels appropriate. Halloween is a traditional time for honoring the Dead. The moon in Scorpio or a waning to dark moon phase is also appropriate, but any time that feels needful is fine. If you knew the ancestor with whom you wish to connect, choose something he liked, a cup of coffee or a piece of chocolate, as an offering and honoring of her life. If you have a photograph, hold it near your heart for a time, and speak heartfelt words of memory. The memory may or may not be a “happy” one but allow it to come from your lips. Know the Mother supports you below and the Father breathes love into you from above. Know you are made of Light and Breath, and as such are completely safe and empowered and strong. Any emotions that come up are presenting themselves to be healed through the shared empathic nexus between you and your ancestor. Spend time opening this space, and, if you wish, tell your ancestor you wish to share for awhile, to learn from his life experiences, and to heal the things she imprinted in you that have not yet been healed. Hold onto impressions, insights, and experiences by journaling or giving them voice to another. In all things, it is important to hold the intention to heal.
We do not connect to the dead for chills and thrills but rather out of respect for the wisdom of our elders and that the continuity of our tribal memory is maintained in ourselves.
© 2013 Heather D. Eggleston